By Amber the Alchemist – Medium
I’m so tired, family. And I know you are too. Each week there’s a new battle to face and whether it’s impacting us directly or indirectly, we still feel it. And when we focus on all of the negativity around us, peace can start to feel unattainable.
Collectively, we’re facing an extended game of tug-of-war with the universe, being pushed into a new direction, as we’re pulled by our past, regrets and disappointments. “How can we forgive others when we haven’t forgiven ourselves?” rang through my head as I pulled the 5 of Calabash and Forgiveness for this week’s message. That stung.
“Blessings are blessings, no matter how small they seem.”
The 5 of Calabash’s energy can leave us feeling unsupported, unseen, pessimistic and drowning in self pity. It’s in this time that we can lack a higher perspective, where it seems easier to wallow in our sorrows, seeing the cup half empty versus half full. How we choose to perceive our lessons, downfalls, or those cringy experiences, can put a grey filter over our lens on life. But we’re meant to see and feel in color!
We can continue the cycle of allowing our pain, disappointments or negative circumstances to rain on our parade or we can dance in the rain and anticipate the rainbow to come and the blessings in our life that are already present… like the gifts of life, love, shelter, community.
Blessings are blessings, no matter how small they seem.
Many of us will be moving through deep-rooted negativity that stems from childhood, our environment or our personal fears and projections. With that said, this can be deep healing work. This doesn’t happen overnight. You may not even feel ready to forgive, but you can invite it into your life.
It’s easy to adopt a mindset that sees things happening to us, rather than for us. When we are able to stretch how we view ourselves, our perceptions of our loved ones and the world also stretches. Lean into grace and understanding this week. As pain from our past and disappointing circumstances take up space, we’re asked to be an observer, rather than a victim. If we continue to frame our pain into something that’s unable to be transmuted into love or inner peace, we’ll continue to allow external forces to dictate our lives, especially our happiness. Each of us deserve to be freed from the limitations we’ve succumbed to, and this week it begins with forgiveness.
Despite what we’ve been taught, forgiveness has never been about those who’ve wronged or misjudged us; it’s been about you and walking through the world without the weight of the past on your back. Forgiveness and self love go hand in hand. We’re called to forgive ourselves for all of our responses, decisions, etc. and make peace with our past by extending compassion to ourselves. Through self love we can extend grace to who we were during those darker times, even if it makes us feel embarrassed or defeated.
As I look at the Forgiveness oracle card, I think about Maya Angelou’s “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings” and how liberating speaking your truth can be. You don’t have to speak your truth this week, unless you feel called to, but you can make peace with the truth, whether you were perceived as the protagonist or antagonist. We won’t always respond from a healed place, and that’s okay. Perfection is a myth! We are all souls living this human experience, which comes clad with moments we won’t always be proud of, and that’s also okay.
The true healing begins once we’re able to hold ourselves accountable for the power we’ve given others, our fears, or our trauma. Allow forgiveness to be the door that opens you up to a world filled with peace, understanding, love, hope and lack of judgment. Forgiveness is the most radical act of self love we can practice this week. Let’s release the pain that others have caused us and we have caused them and start over again with a clean slate. Mini deaths and rebirths, remember?
If you want to feel lighter, you can lighten your load of guilt, disappointment or shame. Pray for perspective and acknowledge that we are all responding to the best of our ability!
- Forgive yourself and others
- Refrain from beating yourself up about uncontrollable circumstances
- Release the pain of the past
- Check your negativity at the door
- See the cup as half full rather than half empty
- Double down on self love!